Claim What's Yours

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...”

―Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You'll Go!

We've all been in places that we'd rather not be. But how many of us would still be there if we KNEW a fool proof way to make today's glass ceiling tomorrow's foundation?

The proof of the pudding is in the eating, -or- you have to eat it to know what's in it! 

My point is that, although it's possible to read something and understand it completely, you cannot accomplish what you're intending through understanding alone. Conscious action is necessary- whether in the form of visualization, physical doing, attitude accountability, creating new habits, cutting cords with toxic relationships and substances, etc.

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If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got.

Try something different:

Reach outside of your comfort zone

and apply your will, motivation, effort, and habits

towards what you want to create for yourself and your life.

You cannot get to where you want to be if you do not will it.

You cannot begin to move in the direction of your dreams

if you don't take it upon yourself to motivate yourself.

You cannot achieve what you want to accomplish without applying effort.

And you cannot apply effort if you keep giving in to your same old, oppressive habits.

Take responsibility for your life,

accountability for your actions and happiness,

and claim freedom now. 

I came across an amazing page today in search of something for a loved one that reminded me of the power we carry within ourselves, that most of us have forgotten about. It's the unlimited power to create anything we choose~ you can read it here.

At the above link Stefan states, "If you fail to learn to use the law of attraction, you’ll continue to struggle and manifest bad things in your life.  If you can learn to take advantage of it, you possess the ability to create and manifest anything you want in your life."

Basically, if you don't watch what you think, believe, do,  desire, or expect to the degree of abolishing destructive or debilitating subconscious patterns and ways of being, you'll continue to witness your life going in directions other than what you would want for yourself. 

There's more to manifesting than simply holding the vision in your mind, although visualization alone is extremely helpful in helping one to achieve goals.

To take advantage of the Law of Attraction:

define your dream: know what you want

get clear on what is desired

believe in your ability to manifest anything you desire

believe that it's not only possible, but already on it's way

create goals in alignment with desires and beliefs

take action in alignment with pulling the vision into physical existence

let go of the outcome while you focus on your goals

while letting go of being attached to how they manifest

  

I know it sounds easier said than done, but that's where practice comes into play.

L I T E R A L L Y, play. Have fun with it!

The more enjoyment you get out of what you're focusing on,

the more you can feel the passion you have for it and the joy it would give you,

the faster it will become real to you.

"Unless you consciously choose a different future, your past will decide it for you."

—Rod Stryker

Here's couple more powerful statements from Stefan: "If I didn’t have the success I have now, then I would have told you that it’s B.S.  But because I have undeniable evidence and have experienced it working for me first-hand, I am a believer.  I attribute the law of attraction to helping me to create everything I have in my life – the good and the bad.  I take full responsibility for everything that happens for me, the good and bad, as I truly believe that I’ve created and manifested EVERYTHING." and "The way the law of attraction works is simple:  Likes attract likes.  A vibration will attract a similar vibration. The closer the vibrational match, the stronger the magnetic pull. Whatever frequency that you put out is being pulled back towards you, or is attracted to you."

This may sound like a new age idea, woo woo, too much work, or too mystical to be practical or even real- but what do you have to lose by really applying the effort it takes to see if it works for you or not, other than something to complain about or remain in misery over? 

What's a commitment of four to six weeks of continual practice towards the life of your dreams in the grand scheme of things? It's small and doable for everyone!

The concepts I'm speaking of here have been said throughout history by some of the world's leading masterminds who have reinvented the world as we know it. The only reason it may seem so foreign is because of the agenda to keep people on the hamster wheel, which we may step off of anytime we're ready. 

If you need more proof that this concept has worked for others, you can do a quick internet search and pages upon pages of results will pop up in less than a second in most cases with account after account of the Law of Attraction working for them.

I can honestly say from my own personal experience that it does actually work. I've seen the good and the bad and it has all come from my mindset, intentions, and actions. The good shows up when I apply my ability to focus, make decisions based on what is truly best for me, and use my mind's eye to visualize what I want more of. The same is for the opposite. If my intentions are no good, I'm lazy and playing small or a victim, and my thoughts are made of piss and vinegar~ that's what I get.

It's comfortable to fall into the limited mindset of judgment, dismissal, or falling into the countless reasons of why it won't work for you. Push through those limits by reviewing the beliefs you carry around manifestation, universal laws, and anything that's outside of your current scope of awareness regarding similar subjects.

One cannot manifest what is wanted when they don't first believe that they can.

"Your very intention to keep believing, even in the face of challenges, will often be enough to carry you through any rough spots and keep you focused on the outcome you want." ―David Hooper, author of The Rich Switch - The Simple 3-Step System to Turn on Instant Wealth Using the Law of Attraction

When you have the desire and believing in yourself parts down, the action plan will almost manifest itself because your harmony with it is building momentum towards its manifestation.

A profound statement made by Napoleon Hill in his 1937 unedited edition of Think and Grow Rich, “When faith [by which he meant belief] is blended with the vibration of thought, the subconscious mind instantly picks up the vibration, translates it into its spiritual equivalent, and transmits it to the Infinite Intelligence, as in the case of prayer.”

And more profound statements on manifesting came from Claude Bristol, author of The Magic of Believing in 1948, “We are moulded also by the thoughts of others; by what we hear in our social life, what we read in newspapers, magazines, and books, what we hear in the movies, the theatre, and on the radio; even by chance remarks from the conversation of bystanders --and these thoughts bombard us constantly. Some of them that accord with our own inmost thoughts and also open the way to greater visions in our life are helpful. But often there are thoughts that are upsetting, that weaken our self-confidence, and turn us away from our high purposes. It is these outside thoughts that are the trouble makers, and later I shall point out how you can keep free of them." "However, I would like to point out that hard work alone will not bring success. The world is filled with people who have worked hard but have little to show for it. Something more than hard work is necessary: It is creative thinking and firm belief in your ability to execute your ideas. The successful people in history have succeeded through their thinking. Their hands were merely helpers to their brains.” ―Claude M. Bristol, The Magic of Believing

The audio version of this book can be found on YouTube here.

Believe in You.

I Am Authentic

How am I so happy and yet so sad at the same time?

What’s wrong with wanting all my reasons to rhyme?

I look in the mirror grateful that I survived

and simultaneously wonder how I’m alive

How much suffering can one person take?

If I’m not being crucified, I’m burned at the stake.

What’s wrong with wanting all suffering to end?

Why is that most only have one true friend, if that?

How many people must I be forced to walk away from?

Why do I want to feel when I’ve always wanted to be numb?

What has changed in me that’s causing this revolution?

How did I break free from the institution…

that broke me into a million tiny pieces

and told me salvation lies in my thesis?

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My worth isn’t found in textbooks or assignments

or in someone else’s interpretation of my alignment

with who I know, where I'm going, and where I’ve been

or the balance between my yang and my yin.

I determine my value and where I’m going,

whether I’m growing or whether I’m towing

baggage from thoughts I refuse to heal

or letting them go in order to reveal

exactly who I Am.

Limitless, powerful, sexual, and expansive~

I Am.

So, What IS ShadowWork?

ShadowWork was originally created by Carl Jung to help people bring the darkest parts of themselves to Light for healing and transformation. This essential aspect of healing is one that many people shy away from, believing that in order to transcend the negativity and darkness of the world we must only focus on the positive. But denying this part of who we are is oppressive and continues the cycles of violence and abuse.

Not all perceived darkness is negative.

"Our deepest wounds frequently spring from our greatest gifts, and by acknowledging these gifts,

we can speed and deepen our own healing." — Ken Page

To stay away from this side of who we are only holds us back and makes those aspects of ourselves more powerful. It causes us to do things we're ashamed of and to believe things we know aren't true.

Our deepest wounds have the ability to render us feeling unloved, unlovable, undeserving, damaged, and unworthy. We like to pretend that this isn't the case by painting ourselves to be someone we aren't to be socially accepted and seen as successful through the eyes of those who we're fooling or trying to impress.

Many roots of trauma exist in our childhood's, sometimes from our physical birth. There is collective trauma that lives within our human history that continues to breed fear, aggression, anger, and confusion. Then there's the trauma of growing up in a world where bullying, violence, and oppression is passed down from generation to generation.

"The very qualities we’re most ashamed of — the ones we try to sweep under the rug so others don’t notice — are key in finding true happiness within ourselves." — Lindsay, The Daily Awe

Core gifts can feel like shameful weaknesses, like a curse or a fault. But we cannot be whole without accepting ALL parts of ourselves. This doesn't mean we cannot change our minds about how we see ourselves or what we choose to believe about who we are, but that if we have behaviors and beliefs that we no longer want to exhibit or carry, we can let them go.

It can be hard at times to believe that what we've experienced by the hands of another isn't personal. It feels personal, it looks personal, and it can sound personal~ but it isn't.

Everyone is operating from their level of understanding of the world and from their personal experience of it. Most abusers were abused, most liars were lied to, and most thieves were stolen from. That doesn't make an ounce of it ok, but having an attitude based in compassion is how we're going to move forward and leave behind what no longer serves us.

A lot of us have pain, disappointment, and regret living within us that could've been avoided had we listened to what our intuition was trying to tell us. We have to take responsibility for what's ours to be responsible for while we forgive ourselves and everyone involved.

This doesn't mean that we allow what we thought broke us back into our lives or that we allow more of the same to continue, but that we take what we've learned and apply it now and always.

Sometimes things happen out of what seems like nowhere that uproots our life as we know it and leaves us dumbfounded and feeling desecrated. We watch people we love and trust violate us in the worst of ways as we spiral out of control from trying to understand why. 

The truth is, it's hurt people hurting people.

Forgiveness isn't a word to take lightly, even though it's thrown around like a hot potato. Forgiveness is an action that starts with the desire to let go of what no longer serves. It's compassion in action that sees humanity as an opportunity to do what hasn't worked differently.

Sometimes we have to forgive the same things more than once because just as we didn't pick up these self-destructive habits and beliefs in an instant, it can be a hard process to unlearn the things that have influenced a big part of who we are today. 

And sometimes simply accepting ourselves for who we are and others for who they choose to be is the path of least resistance.

If you truly enjoy something and it isn't causing you or anyone and anything harm, why beat yourself up about it? Why beat yourself up anyway? Why not just move on?

Because of our lack of courage and our fear of change. 

We don't want to face what we believe is ugly, unlovable, or unacceptable about ourselves. If we don't do ShadowWork, we're only pretending to be the light that we truly are rather than actually embodying and connecting with it.

Courage nurtures our ability to feel connected and connection is a big part of why we're here. Connection opens us up to new worlds and new experiences that only flexibility and creativity can navigate. We must cultivate our motivation for learning, exploring, and growing!

The problem is most of us feel more disconnected than ever, in spite of the multi-faceted database of friends we collect on social media platforms and the identities we take on to fool ourselves into believing we're making real connections.

By denying who we are, we cannot simultaneously move forward in a way that will bless our lives. Shame is often-times the source of fear, insecurity, doubt, indecision, inconsistency, isolation, pride, and regret.

When we experience emotions, and whether we label them positive or negative, they are guides inviting us on a journey deeper into the parts of who we are and where we've come from. 

Take a moment to understand what makes you feel what you're feeling and why you're feeling it. Center yourself and dive deeper into your soul through taking deep breaths and having patience with your ability to hear what your soul is saying. Don't try to influence the answers you receive, for this will only be a response from your ego.

This is where patience and confidence come in. Focus and concentration are key elements here! What we focus on expands and expansion can be the process of spreading our wings and growing into who we truly are. We aren't designed to be like everyone else. We all have our individual path and purpose.

Grace is the remedy to shame. It's the strength to strive for excellence, not perfectionism, in all that we do. It's what we receive when we're at one with ourselves instead of in conflict. It's redemption from the self-imposed prison of guilt, shame, and insecurity.

We can give ourselves grace by loving ourselves enough to care about who and what we allow into our lives. This doesn't mean ignore what needs to change, but quite the opposite: embrace it knowing it will only lead to something better.

What gifts rest within the heart of your current struggles? What passions lead you into vulnerability? What is your message to the world? What problem are you here to solve? How do you promote the good of others? Who do you want to help?

The Gift you're here to share resides where your profound happiness meets the world's deepest desire. Once you decide on who you want to help, how you're going to do it, and what it will accomplish~ you'll be unstoppable.

To Your Success,

Melissa Nelson